I was going to title this blog "Wedding Perfection for the minimalist tomboy with expensive taste" but that just seemed like an SE0 nightmare, so I went with our coined relationship phrase "let's hangout forever".
I feel like I should start from the beginning. For those of you that have followed my career and observed what seemed to be a lack of a "romantic life" might wonder where on God's green earth I found this mystery man.
To make a long story short...in 2011, I met Andrew in Vegas. NOT in the "what happens in vegas, says in Vegas sort of way"...We met through a mutual friend, I became his wingman and over the years, we became great friends. I was living in LA, he was in Florida and I'd help him pick ties to wear to weddings as a bachelor and we'd make plans to live closer someday so we could cause trouble together at pool parties.
My life in LA began to change drastically. Along with these changes, came a lot of prayer. I would wander the streets of downtown LA with my dogs and pray to God for guidance, clarity and answers. During those nights, I found that in the back of my mind, Andrew was a constant presence. For those of you with faith, you could call this a "still small voice". Well, I chose to ignore it.
A couple years ago, during a trip home to see my family in NY, I grew tired of avoiding the thought of this man and sent a text..."This is going to sound crazy but I am going to put myself in your way to find out why I can't get you off my mind". His response? "I think you sent this to the wrong person" lol. Days later, I got on a plane and flew across the country to see my buddy Andrew, who I hadn't laid eyes on since that one night years prior in vegas.
That week, I learned that when you meet the one your heart has been searching for you are overcome with a peace and stillness you can't describe. I never anticipated that's how it would feel. In fact, I texted my mom asking her "what does it mean when things just feel normal when you're with someone" her response was "it means that you are home".
Well, let's just cut to the chase on this story and tell you what the heck happened next. Well, the week after we met back up, I flew to Florida to see him again and I never left. I'm still here, sitting at his dining table, now as his wife. I left my posh high rise Los Angeles apartment, my over-priced furniture, name brand clothes, shoes, friendships and everything familiar for this man and everyday, I thank God I had the strength to do it because what I have outweighs what I lost a million times over.
September 15, 2017 was a day we'll never forget. We were married by my dad on the summit of Point Lookout Resort in Nortport, Maine. A place Andrew used to go as a boy to just sit and appreciate the incredible view looking over the bay. Our guests were close friends and family, a list of around 50 that stayed in private log cabins on the sprawling green Point Lookout property.
I wore a Martina Liana two piece wedding dress in ivory with Badgley Mischka ivory satin wedges (stilettos sink into grass) and swarovksi rose gold jewelry. I did my own make up using Laura Mercier flawless fusion longwear foundation, anastasia eyeshadow in "Vermeer" and "RTW", Stila waterproof liquid eyeliner, "Park Princess" bronzer, highlight and blush by Tarte and Laura Mercier translucent powder. At 10pm, I changed the bottom portion of my dress into a short skater-style skirt from charlotte russe that cost me a whopping 20 bucks and a pair of "dainty" style cream colored leather converse all-stars.
The compass room at point lookout is stunning so we chose to to keep things elegant and simple. The table tops each had a set of 3 floating candles in clear cylinder vases that I found pretty cheap at candlesforless.com. The local greenhouse "Holmes Greenhouse" in Belfast, Maine put together the most gorgeous ivory rose and eucalyptus arrangements as centerpieces and added black dahlias as an accent in my bouquet. A few strands of bistro lights were hung over the dance floor that I ordered on amazon and it perfectly accented that "candle lit" feel I really wanted. My advice for those planning a wedding: don't overcomplicate.
We went with quite a few non-traditional aspects of the ceremony and reception starting with a Friday evening ceremony, you should always ask for this- it can save you a ton of money on venues in high demand. We also decided against a bridal party for a few reasons: Andrew is literally the best friend of all time and there would have been a row of 20 groomsmen standing at the altar, I don't think I even know that many people. Plus, with so many guests spending money to travel to Maine, I didn't want to require MORE money to be spent on bridesmaids dresses that everyone says you can wear again but we know that's a total lie haha. My groom and his best friends (all in black) did walk into the ceremony as a "wolfpack" though, to "another one bites the dust"- I watched from the bridal suite and have to say, I've never wanted to be "one of the boys" more in my entire life, they looked so cool.
We also nixed the sit down dinner. With our group of friends, the worst thing you could do is sit them down with our aunts and uncles and ask them to make conversation for an hour until it's time to drink!! What did we serve you ask? Bacon wrapped scallops, beef and asparagus skewers, spanakopita, chicken satay, beet crostini etc all butler style. The night continued with a mini slider bar including cuban sandwiches, meatball sandwiches, angus and turkey burgers, a flatbread pizza station with multiple options, salads, bread and a turkey carving station. Don't forget about open bar and nips of Jameson whiskey, casamigos tequila and fireball cinnamon whiskey that were passed out as wedding favors to our guests with adorable homemade cards saying "no good story ever started with eating a salad"...I mean, we know how to party. Late night we rolled out mac and cheese, milk and cookies and yes, more pizza. We did away with the garter belt, bouquet toss and the typical "wedding playlist" in exchange for old school hip hop. But we did cut a batman cake that Andrew surprised me with (probably because he was scared I would say no) and had a dessert layout with red velvet cupcakes and raspberry, mint and lavender truffles made by our 9 year old niece Mya that were life changing. The mother-son and father-daughter dance was done together to Leonard Cohen's "Hallelujah" and our first dance was "World in Flames" by the metal band "In this Moment".
What we ended up planning was the best party of our lives. All captured so perfectly by our amazing friend and photographer Tara Koenke. When you get to spend the rest of your life with your best friend it really feels less like a marriage and more like we say, "hanging out forever". If I could give anyone planning a wedding some advice, I would say: get out of the box, let your day reflect you and don't do shots of tequila the night before no matter how much fun you're having.